The Council Pyramid

HOLY FREAKING CRAP!!!!!

Ok I have a few friends that I have joint responsibility with helping other people with all their emotional problems and life crisis. I have always had an ability to relate with people and help them with their problems. I Consider myself as a fairly intelligent person. I have always been able to read people and see the Commonality of most issues or situations. I choose to live my life as a fairly laid back person and not let things bother me. Growing up I always let the small stuff worry me and that would cause stomach aches. As I grew up I started to laugh at the small stuff and most everything is small stuff. (Thats a book title) Anyways, My friend and I were discussing the matters of antoher friend. I felt bad for her becuase she said I always have to help people out but whenever I call for advice or want to vent they interrupt and lay all thier problems on me.
I was shocked but I realized that what she said was true. She and I are both at the top of this Pyramid of advice giving and the water falls down but it doesn't trickle up.

Well with that said. I don't mind giving the advice I like to help people out. However, I can only give advice and if the individual doesn't want to follow the advice then I don't want to hear the stories over and over again. Most problems I am faced with involve acting on something and makeing a change in direction or just simply leaving the situation all together.

Realtionships suck! Period! if you break up and everyone tells you why the break up happened and that its for X reason. Chances are if you fix X reason the problem will be fixed. However if you keep doing X then you are just asking for more problems. I know that break-ups are tough i've had a few and they hurt inside. But I have now learned how to learn from it and move on. If you are asked by your EX to not come around anymore or talk to them, then maybe you shouldn't. If you tell everyone you're "over it!" then you better be for sure because cryin to your EX about how your life sucks and being sad is not being "OVER IT!!!!"

Another thing If you have a hard day we all do, and being lonely sucks! hang out with your friends but not the ones that are giving you all the Grief to begin with.

Just some advice is if you ask for help and then ingnore the options given then stop asking for help and figure it out on your own. because you're jsut setting yourself up for a world of Hurt!